Managing interpersonal relationships: What are the Layers of Self Disclosure? Which layers do you think are appropriate to discuss on your “first date?”
Managing Interpersonal Relationships Discussion
Self Disclosure is a foundation for intimacy in a relationship and revealing private information to others and also to know when to disclose information. There are three layers to Self-Disclosure in relationships: the outermost layers, intermediate layers and central layers. I think the central layer is appropriate for a first date because the central layer contains communication and good communication between partners are an essential for a healthy relationship.
The layers of self-disclosure include the outermost (or peripheral) layer which are demographic characteristics, the intermediate layer contains your attitude and opinion, and the central layer which contain core characteristics. While being on your “first date” the appropriate layer to discuss in that encounter would be the outermost layer in order to know the basics of your date.
the outermost/peripheral layer is the characteristics of yourself, such as birthplace, age, gender, and ethnicity. the intermediate layers are your taste in things, like music, food, and entertainment. this contains your attitudes and opinions about things. lastly, the central layers contain core characteristics such as self-awareness, self-concept, fears, personal value, and distinctive personality traits. I believe that the peripheral and the intermediate are appropriate to discuss on the first date. it’s normal to get to know the person better by knowing where they were born or how old they are. if the conversation gets better and they have a connection then is not bad to talk about the intermediate layers. I think the central layer is when you’ve gone on a couple of dates and the person likes you enough to stay and get to know all of you then you talk about the last layer.
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